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Glossary What It All Means
Term |
Abbreviation |
Definition |
|---|---|---|
| 3 Second Rule | A pick up "rule" that says one must approach the woman they are interested in within 3 seconds. | |
| Abundance Mentality | A mantra that suggests there are an abundance of potential women available, implying that one should not be concerned about whether or not a particular woman is interested or not. | |
| Alpha Male of the Group | AMOG | A socially comfortable male who will compete with you for a woman and interfere with your approach. |
| alt.seduction.fast | ASF | alt.seduction.fast, a newsgroup dedicated to seduction widely considered the origin of the online seduction community. |
| Anchor | Also anchor point, a feedback mechanism where an emotional state is bound to a physical action. | |
| Anti-Slut Defense | ASD | A common behavior among women where they make a concerted effort to not appear too easy or slutty, particularly before sex or physical intimacy. "I never do this" is a common example. |
| Approach Anxiety | AA | The fear that arises when doing a cold approach on a woman or group of women (or group of strangers, including men). |
| Average Frustrated Chump | AFC | A stereotypical "nice guy" who has only a weak ability to approach and engage with women, and who tends to engage is supplicative and deferential behavior when he does interact with them. |
| Bedroom Eyes | A particular form of eye contact that suggests a desire for sex. | |
| Below Average Frustrated Chump | bAFC | An individual whose seduction ability is even below that of the Average Frustrated Chump (AFC). |
| Bitch Shield | BS | Behavior from a woman designed specifically to fend off potential suitors. |
| Blow Out | A form of rejection that usually occurs while approaching and engaging a woman for the first time and involves the woman or others ending the interaction either indirectly or directly. | |
| Bootcamp | An intensive training course in seduction usually held by dating coaches or mPUAs. | |
| Bounce | To move to another location, generally with a woman or women. | |
| Boyfriend Destroyer | BFD | A technique designed to inject a woman with doubts about her boyfriend and ideally get her to leave her boyfriend. |
| Buyer's Remorse | When a woman regrets sleeping with a man. | |
| Buying Temperature | BT | How attracted a woman is to a particular man trying to seduce her. |
| Calibration | The skill of choosing appropriate seduction techniques based on feedback received from the target woman. | |
| Canned Opener | A memorized statement, question, of action used with little to no variation to start a conversation with a woman. | |
| Canned Routine | CR | A seduction "routine" or blueprint with set responses to set behavior that is memorized ahead of time and applied with little to no variation. |
| Cat String Theory | A term coined by Mystery to describe the dynamic where people value what they work for more than they value what comes easily. | |
| Cavemanming | Cavemanning or "Caveman Style" involves using aggressive physical escalation with little verbal escalation to seduce a target. | |
| Closing | To achieve tangible success with a woman. Generally, anything from getting her number to getting sex is considered a close. | |
| Club Game | Also Dance Floor Game, this is the process of attempting to seduce women at a night club, usually on the dance floor. | |
| Cockblock | CB | A person who deliberately or unintentionally interferes with your ability to seduce your target. |
| Cocky Funny | C&F | A seduction approach that consists of blending cocky behavior with humor. |
| Cold Approach | The act of approaching a woman you have never met and do not know. | |
| Cold Reading | A set of techniques where one seems to demonstrate insight and knowledge about a person they have never met. | |
| Compliance Test | CT | Generally a small favor or request that is used by either the man or the woman to gauge interest and other behavioral characteristics. |
| Congruence | Consistency of behavior. | |
| Dance Floor Monkey | A guy who dances in a very noticeable manner to attract the attention of women but has very limited ability to escalate any further than initial attraction due to his dancing skills. | |
| Day 2 | D2 | The second meeting with a woman. For instance, if you met a woman out at a bar on Friday, meeting her for drinks on Sunday would be a 'Day 2'. |
| Day Game | Approaching women during the day in places like supermarkets and retail stores, outside of social settings such as bars and clubs. | |
| Demonstration of Higher Value | DHV | A routine in which the man displays traits or attributes that raises his worth or appeal in the eyes of a woman. |
| Demonstration of Lower Value | DLV | Behavior, usually unintentional, by a man that will cause his attraction and appeal to decline in the eyes of a woman. |
| Direct Game | Attempting to seduce women by very clearly showing an interest in the woman. For instance, telling a woman how hot she looks in her dress and how bad it makes you want her. | |
| Disqualifying | The act of deliberately trying to make a woman believe you are not a potential suitor, often to get her to lower her guard. | |
| DTF | DTF | A label for women who have given very strong indications they are willing to sleep with you. |
| Eject | The act of ending an interaction with a woman or a set and moving on to other things. | |
| Escalation | Moving interaction with a woman to "the next level," such as relocating from a public place to a private place, or progressing towards more intimate physical activity. | |
| Eye Contact | EC | Looking straight into the other persons eyes. |
| False Time Constraint | FTC | A made up reason why you will likely have to cut off an interaction with a woman in a short period of time, usually done to make her let her guard down knowing that in the worst case, you will only hang around for a short while. |
| Female Pick Up Artist | fPUA | A female who is an expert at seducing men. (Apparently, not all females are fPUA, go figure). |
| Field Report | FR | A detailed report of a successful or unsuccessful attempt to seduce women. |
| Field Test | Testing out a seduction theory or technique in real life on various women. | |
| Fool's Mate | Coined by Mystery, this term refers to a situation where a PUA managed to have sex with a woman in a short period of time after meeting her, usually in considerably less time than 7 hours spent together. | |
| Freeze Out | Avoiding all contact and ceasing communication with a target woman. | |
| Friend Zone | A man in a woman's social circle who has been designated as someone she will never be sexually or romantically interested in him. | |
| Friends With Benefits | FwB | A type of relationship where the two participants are friends and have casual sex with no commitment of monogamy and little to no elements of traditional dating other than sex. |
| Full Close | F-Close | Having sex with a target. |
| Gambit | A short canned routine, often a one liner with a specific purpose. | |
| Game | As a verb, the act of pursuing women (ex "I love the game") or alternatively, as a noun, seduction ability (ex "His game is good") | |
| Grand Master Style | GM Style | A seduction method invented by a PUA known as "GM" that is extremely direct and very sexual. |
| Hired Guns | Female employees in the service industry who are generally recruited for their attractiveness, such as bartenders, waitresses, shot girls, and strippers. | |
| Hoop Theory | One theory behind compliance testing that suggests using compliance tests to see if the other person will "jump through hoops" for the others' approval. | |
| Hot Babe | HB | Short hand to describe a beautiful woman. Often HB is followed by a number on a 1-10 scale describing her attractiveness level. (Often only numbers 6 and up are used with the prefix 'HB'). |
| Indicator of Interest | IOI | A sign a woman gives a man that indirectly reveals she is attracted to or interested in him. |
| Indirect Game | A style of seduction where the man approaches and attempts seduction 'indirectly', hiding his seduction intentions initially. | |
| Indirect Opener | An opener that attempts to hide any sexual or romantic interest in the target. | |
| Inner Game | The aspects of game that are internal to ones' self, for example self esteem, confidence, values and goals. | |
| Investment | The amount of effort one has put into an interaction. See also Cat String Theory. | |
| Keyboard Jockey | KJ | One who seems to know a lot and gives lots of advice and criticism over forums but has little to no actual real world experience. |
| Kino | Playful physical contact, usually not overtly sexual. | |
| Kiss Close | Ending an interaction with a woman with a kiss (usually a full makeout and tongue involvement is assumed). | |
| Last Minute Resistance | LMR | Behavior by a woman, usually after the act of kissing, in which she prevents him from progressing toward more intimate sexual contact. |
| Let's Just Be Friends | LJBF | "Let's just be friends" is a statement a woman makes to a man to indicate that she is not sexually or romantically interested in him. |
| Long Game | Building attraction with a woman over an extended period of time, where the goal of "closing" is intentionally delayed. | |
| Long Term Relationship | LTR | A long term sexual and romantic relationship. |
| Neg | An ambiguous statement or seemingly accidental insult delivered to a beautiful woman a man has just met, with the intent of actively demonstrating to her (or her friends) a lack of interest in her. | |
| One-itis | A man's obsession/fixation with a girl with whom he's not dating, especially when said fixation significantly dramatically lowers the his chance of dating or sleeping with her. | |
| Opener | A statement, question, or story used to initiate a conversation with a stranger or group of strangers. | |
| Peacocking | To dress in loud clothing or flashy accessories in order to get attention from women. | |
| Pick Up Artist | PUA | A person who specializes in the art of "picking up" or seducing women. |
| Target | A particular woman you are actively trying to seduce. | |
| The Field | Any place where you can meet women. | |
| Wingman | A friend who assists in meeting, attracting, and approaching women. |